My unequivocal answer to the question in the title is: yes and no.
Now let us start in order.
Dating is not what it used to be. In the past a date was a discreet, even secret event. Considerable co-ordination was required to arrange one at all.
Today, at least for our single friends, dates are an established routine, as ordinary and common as sitting in traffic, and the apps are an empire. The overwhelming majority of first meetings now take place under their examining eye.
Statistically, most dates end in disappointment. Why? Not because the quality of the human material has declined, but because people increasingly arrive at dates with manifestly unrealistic expectations of an initial meeting — which is bad — and because this generation's conception of the character, complexity and necessity of a long relationship is thoroughly foolish, which is a catastrophe.
And then you get up the morning after with the salty smell of a wasted evening and wonder: perhaps another chance? Perhaps I am rejecting too fast?
Rather than resolving the dilemma for you, let me sharpen it.
Here is the distinction that matters. Ask yourself whether the date was bad, or whether the person was.
A bad date is a bad date. Wrong venue, tiredness, nerves, a person performing rather than talking, one clumsy remark that set the tone. Almost all of that is noise, and almost none of it is information about a human being.
A bad person is different, and the signals are behavioural rather than atmospheric: how they treated the waiter, whether they asked you a single question, whether every story positioned them as the wronged party.
The first deserves a second meeting. The second does not, and never will, however charming the third date might be.
Most people run this the wrong way round — they forgive character and reject atmosphere, which is precisely how you end up eliminating decent prospects and pursuing exhausting ones.
