Your life needs to change and we both know it.
But for a change to occur in your life, it has to occur.
And with all due respect — and there is respect — to mental preparation, to alignment, to thought work, this world does not live inside your head.
The people around you do not know that you have changed. They need to see it.
They need to see actions. Behaviours.
If he does not see that this time you do not intend to put up with it, he will not believe your declarations.
And he is right.
Speaking psychologically, the internal level has to maintain a constant dialogue with the external world.
Not for the sake of others. For your own sake.
Only when I see myself squeezed into a tracksuit and sweating on a treadmill, only when the hand that used to grab chocolate is obliged to grab a cut apple — only then will I believe myself that I am serious about the diet.
And when I talk about sensible and systematic psychological conduct in the world, I am quite willing to reveal that I mean introducing behavioural — and measurable — components into the disordered mess running around inside our private emotional bathtub.
Why?
Simply because I think that way things will be better for you.
There is a serious version of the point underneath the joke. Your beliefs about yourself are not formed by argument. They are formed by evidence, and the only evidence that counts is behavioural, because that is the only kind your nervous system cannot dismiss.
Which is why insight so rarely produces change on its own, and why one uncomfortable act, repeated a few times, so often does.